Dear Annie: I am terrified by my aggressive neighbor who has sudden explosive outbursts

Dear Annie: I moved to my bungalow six months ago. My new neighbor, we will call it “Jeremy”, with whom I share a very thin party wall, it seemed friendly at first, in fact, too much. He called first thing every morning, up to eight times a day, mainly to see if that day came out so that I could bother me to bring him things, often without paying them. In truth, he intimidated me and tried to be kind.

When I couldn’t get my attention, I would hit the party wall. I gave him meals, but he constantly bothered me for bread, milk, coffee and tea, nothing of which he would return. I had a mold problem, and I felt sorry for him, so I bought a new bed and bedding for $ 800. At Christmas, I gave him $ 400, suggesting that I could pay me by cutting my grass during the year.

It is abrasive, shouting obscenities to the neighbors who believe they are attacking it. I thought it was better to stay on his good side, but the truth is that he is a thug.

He began to bother me to have overweight, and threw some warning shots. When he intensified, I broke and sent him a text message, telling him if he couldn’t say something pleasant to say anything at all. And I blocked it.

Now, he shouts me insults through the wall. Hi, when other people are out and even knocked on my door once to get a back charger. I was cordial and forced, so he knows that we are in terms of speaking, but he can no longer call me.

Yesterday, Jeremy was in his garden when another neighbor heard him intimidating me for using the bathroom, calling me a “c — dirty”. When the neighbor confronted him, Jeremy quickly tried to cover him by plural and pretending that he was going to his supposed “objectives.” I am sure that my other neighbor is not stupid; He is a man of about 70 years who has had passed people with Jeremy. A lady who has just moved also had problems with him. The fact that I do not do this in front of other people tells me that he is a coward.

I called my housing association and they told me to record it. The problem is that their outbursts are short and unpredictable. He probably knows that when I press the record, it will be too late to catch him. Worse, if the association got involved, I’m afraid I would harm me, my cat or my property. I have mental health problems myself (bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, and I am currently being evaluated for autism.

Jeremy is causing me a lot of stress, and I am starting to have self -harm thoughts. I really can’t let myself move and I don’t know what to do. – Trapped and terrified

Dear Trapped: I am very sorry that you are going through this. Jeremy’s behavior is harassment and would be absolutely unacceptable anywhere; The fact that he is supporting him in his own home, a place that should be a safe shelter, is heartbreaking.

If he has not yet done, he begins to document any abusive behavior of Jeremy. Even if you can’t record it, start registering it. If any of its neighbors can corroborate these incidents, much better. If your housing association does not discourage Jeremy or intervenes, at least they should be able to take a formal complaint of you. If your behavior becomes something physically violent, destructive for your property, etc., do not hesitate to contact your local police.

If moving really is not an option, I recommend that you look for the support of a therapist and that relies on their loved ones. Together with the mental health problems that I already face, I imagine it is easy to feel alone and isolated, but it is not. You deserve to live a happy and peaceful life, and there is support to help you happen.

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