His brother -in -law comes to visit the new baby, and is terrified

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Dear care and food,

My husband’s brother, “Kirk”, and his wife will come for their first visit with our six -month -old son next month. The thing is that the idea that I hold my baby fills me with fear.

Kirk is an absolute Klutz. I expressed my concerns to my husband, but his answer was that he was exaggerating. He thinks everything will be fine. When I reminded him of the moment when our 4 -year -old niece left Kirk’s grip once when he tried to pick it up (fortunately he was less than two feet from the floor when he fell), he fired him as a “chance.” I worry to the point that I am considering pretending a disease when he approaches the moment they will come to cancel their visit. What is the answer?

“Said in Socal.”

Dear scared,

Yes, I have to say that pretending to get out of this feels a bit excessive. First, clumsy people (hello) also have children and manage to take care of them and raise them to adulthood. Second, there is no rule that Uncle Kirk says has To hold the baby just because he will be there for a visit. But I could also ask Kirk to feel on the couch before delivering to the baby. (Use additional pillows for support if it makes it feel better!) Even if your child managed to get out of Kirk’s reach, it would be a super short distance and a soft landing for him. If you start crying or need to be changed or fed or walking through the house, you or your husband can take care.

It is possible that Kirk’s awkwardness is obsessed due to a deeper anxiety for not always being able to protect his son, so that I understand it. The world is scary and full of dangers, etc. But now, you probably have realized that it is not possible to avoid all risks or control for each possible variable at all times. You can be as vigilant as you want; Your family and friends and other caregivers can be as careful as you want: parence will still find new and surprising ways to alarm it. Breathe deeply and try to remind you that your child is safe and well. You’ve been taking care of it for six months. You will always worry about him, it’s your son! That is not something you can turn off, but it will face more harsh things than an uncle Klutzy, and it will also be Well.

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