Dear Colen: My girlfriend is not as serious as I

“It doesn’t make me feel great. Do you think our relationship will ever take it seriously?”

Dear school

I am a type of 30 years and I have been seeing an older woman, who is 50 years old, for a couple of months.

We met just before Christmas At a party released by one of my colleagues. She is divorced and has a son, who is 20 years old and no longer lives at home.

She is sexy and great, and I am already in love with her, but we cannot ignore the age gap, which cultivates a lot in the conversation.

On the one hand, his son is not interested in me. I understand it, since I probably don’t look much older than him. When he is at home and I am there, he does not relate to me and I do not know how he is supposed to relate to him. “Hello, friend,” is usually as far as I have.

It is also obvious that my girlfriend is not as serious as I relationship. She often says things like “when you fall in love and get married” and “when you have your own children.” It seems that I am only a temporary part of her life and every time I try to start a conversation about the future, she closes it.

It doesn’t make me feel great. Do you think she will ever take our relationship oh really?

Colen says

Obviously, they both have fun and you are having a lot of fun of relationshipBut I think your partner is probably just trying to be realistic given the age gap.

Making those comments also sounds like a defense mechanism to protect themselves from being hurt and prevent others from thinking that it has been “welcomed” by a younger boy.

I think that all you can do is be very direct about how you feel, but keep in mind that at this time you are in the exciting and passionate stage of the stage of the relationship.

Six months or a year later, when the emotion has calmed down a little, it is possible that he feels different about the future.

You might think: “Oh, I want children” or “I want to be with someone closer to my age.”

So I think you must be aware of the realities of being with a couple that is in a very different stage of life.

Maybe if you adopt a more pragmatic approach to discuss your relationshipYour girlfriend would be more willing to listen.

I understand that your son is not delighted that he is dating a much younger boy. I remember that my eldest son asked me not to go out with anyone closer to his age than mine!

Maybe it will not be invested too much because it expects not to last, but at least it is not being difficult or unpleasant.